taedryn
mastodon 4.8.0-alpha.3+glitch.anarres.familyYour favorite trans femme tomboy. I am a computer toucher for money, but aviatrix, photographer, writer, cellist, and sexy gay menace for fun. Some delightful combination of autistic, ADHD, plural, sex-positive ace, depressed, and generally neurospicy.
This account will occasionally post mature content, but fair warning that most of what I talk about is self-absorbed trans nonsense (of the best kind, but still). I technically have an after-dark alt at @taedryn@eldritch.cafe, but I suspect that's unlikely to become active again any time soon.
Follow requests are active, and I'm really only interested in being perceived by other trans and queer folks when I'm here, so if I turn down your request, chances are good that's why.
Profile picture is a commissioned portrait of my OC Tatiana Fenrir, by @kalandras_ from the cursed Xitter hellsite before it was so cursed (no idea if kalandras is still there or not; I hope not).
I can't help feeling like that American kid who contributed 12k incorrect Scots article translations to Wikipedia was just a preview of our glorious LLM-based future.
I've been a skilled benchrest shooter, motorcycle racer, wilderness hiker, airplane pilot, daily driver on US roads, bicycle commuter, worked with lasers and high-voltage electronics, and probably a half dozen more similarly dangerous things.
I never would have imagined that telling a bunch of people "I'm a girl actually" would be the one thing that made me nearly certain it was going to kill me.
I was thinking about this last night, and realized I should actually ask the question. Poll time!
So, I decided a year or two ago that I was probably asexual, based on the evidence I had at the time. Since then, it's become clearer that this is the case.
However, this has not done anything particularly good for me, aside from giving me information to pass to any theoretical new relationship partners. I feel worse about myself, I think because I'm no longer getting the flirty interaction I was enjoying, even if sex was never the object. Like, everyone heard me talking about being ace and decided, probably out of respect for me, to knock off the flirting. No flirting means no deeper relationships, or so it seems, as most of my trans femme friends are somewhere between very and deeply sexual, so it feels like there's this invisible barrier between us.
That got me to wondering, do my ace friends feel similarly? Obviously it is now poll time.
Ace friends, how does the fact of your aceness impact your life? How do you feel about it? (I realize this is a very simple poll and cannot possibly encompass how you feel; I'm just looking for big trends, please comment for more nuance.)
Any catgirls in the audience should give this a listen. It may be enjoyable even though it's old person music (it's me, I'm old people).
Catwalk
This is a long shot, but just in case: anyone have experience with AlloClae? It's a cosmetic filler which is very new on the market, introduced in 2024, so there's not a lot of actual accounts from actual patients out there. I'll spare you descriptions of how it's made, iykyk.
My surgeon is proposing she could use it as an alternative to liposuction for an upcoming procedure, which would pretty substantially reduce some risks I have due to a clotting disorder (lipo is not a kind procedure when it comes to causing bleeding, which both risks the bleeding never stopping if I'm on my anti-coagulant, or forming clots too easily if I'm not on it).
Reddit has a few stories from people who had horrible problems, and a few stories from people who had a really good experience. The internet is chock full of people trying to sell me surgery with AlloClae, and apparently it's popular because it can be applied in some cosmetic applications as a simple, no-general-anaesthesia outpatient procedure, and it tends to retain its volume in the short term. I don't really trust either source, because people get online to complain 100x or 1000x often more than they get online to say everything was cool, and the marketing messages are inherently untrustworthy.
There are literally no long-term results to read up on. The risks seem to be comparable to any other fat grafting procedure, based on what little I can find.
So, perhaps fedi can help. Do you have direct first-hand or second-hand experience with AlloClae? I'd love to hear what you think.
Interesting. Went looking for a trans-as-hell license plate frame, just out of curiosity.
There are a few "ally" type frames on Etsy.
And almost nothing that indicates the driver is trans.
It's almost like... marketing to trans people who can afford a car is... pointless?
Gosh, whatever could that mean.
🙄
@caraplayingstuff@tabletop.social Well, I suppose correlation is not causation. It could be they dropped away for other reasons that just happened to coincide with my exploring my aceness more vocally.
I suspect that one of my problems may also be that I'm letting the label define me instead of the other way around, which is something I'm prone to if I'm not careful.
