Post by @naga@toot.cat

2026-05-04 17:56 UTC

Another limiting factor on #GenderQuest experimentation is that I just can't do much of any personal maintenance myself due to health. I can't shave my beard (or my chest!) because there's no way either Jalan or I could maintain it. I can start letting my hair grow, but Jalan forgot we'd just talked about this and gave me a buzz Saturday when I'd thought we were just trimming my beard. And the beard certainly affects what I can do in the way of make-up. But these are some ideas. (3/3)

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@naga@toot.cat 2026-05-04 18:46

#GenderQuest important context. I don't feel particular gender or body dysphoria when I consider myself a man in an AMAB body. (Though, to be honest with myself, there was some gender and -- now that I reflect, hmm -- genital dysphoria in childhood and adolescence.) But a big part of my goal here is seeing if I experience euphoria from some of these changes, like with that favorite skirt. (4/3)

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@naga@toot.cat 2026-05-16 17:14

#GenderQuest continues! My therapist knows me well after 2 or 3 years, and has an adult daughter who is trans. So he seemed eminently qualified for me to ask for thoughts on things to look for in gender-affirmation as I test feminine aspect for possibly feeling right, even euphoria, within the limits of my #MECFS life. One I hadn't thought of is jewelry. Jalan has pierced ears, but there were several years when her piercings had closed over, so she has both clip-on earrings and other items like necklaces I could borrow :D I love my life.

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