Post by @naga@toot.cat

2026-05-16 17:14 UTC

#GenderQuest continues! My therapist knows me well after 2 or 3 years, and has an adult daughter who is trans. So he seemed eminently qualified for me to ask for thoughts on things to look for in gender-affirmation as I test feminine aspect for possibly feeling right, even euphoria, within the limits of my #MECFS life. One I hadn't thought of is jewelry. Jalan has pierced ears, but there were several years when her piercings had closed over, so she has both clip-on earrings and other items like necklaces I could borrow :D I love my life.

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@naga@toot.cat 2026-05-26 20:57

Falsies arrived. I wanted to check I liked their size before ordering a bra--they're the lightweight sponge kind. The size goal is just large enough that they help blouses or dresses drape over my belly. The countering objective is that -- since I am lying mostly reclined most of the time, I can still see my laptop... I think these are pretty good, but gonna try them in a blouse first. But initial response, just putting them under my t-shirt and letting it hold them? Feels good. #GenderQuest

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@shinybat@zeroes.ca 2026-05-18 00:30

@naga@toot.cat Hurrah for shiny! I don't personally get on with the sensory aspects of jewellery, but absolutely understand the visual appeal. When I was contemplating my gender identity and the Compulsory Not Shiny of western masc presentation norms was a catalyst for doing so, I described the aesthetic I was exploring as Magpie Femme 💖 (I got married in a Magpie Femme outfit, too - navy taffeta corset, metallic blue circle skirt, both made for me by a costume-designer friend I made on IRC and who made the corset with the aim of providing even deep pressure knowing that my interest in having one was Shiny Wearable Hug!)

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