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  #WordWeavers 2026-10-04 What is your MC's most irrational fear? Where did it come from? There's an argument to be made that if you can explain a fear, it's not irrational. But I think we're working with a spectrum here, that goes from reasonable expectation of an outcome to overly strong aversion to an outcome out of proportion to completely misidentifying cause and effect of an experience. "Irrational fear" firmly sits in the latter half of that spectrum. Pergene in...

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  #WordWeavers 2026-10 01-03 Ketchup! 01. What is a promise your MC made that they regret? When her girlfriend Marina left the abbey, Pergene promised that they would meet as soon as she herself completed her last year to taking her vows in the abbey. That did not happen, and to the present of "Raven Red & Crow White" she blames herself for not reaching their meeting place faster, and that even just the three days she spent preparing for travel after her ceremony of oaths might...

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  I have grown to absolutely detest the idea of "common sense", literally because it is neither common, nor does it contain a whole lot of sense. It is an amalgamation of tropes that taken together make a person solely relying on it a gullible fool. The reality is that our environment is too complex to do without extensive theory and expertise to fully grasp, that fixation on practical results will calcify into meaningless, arcane tradition, and that one person's concern for communi...

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  Wir haben mit "herrklären" ein so schönes, deutsches Wort für "mansplaining".

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  My wife, @GoldenRetrieverGF : "... you know, classy, naked people? Starts with a b, French... bourgeoisie!" Me: "..." Wife: "... no... burlesqe! I'm too demisexual for this conversation." Me: "... ?" Wife: "They're more naked than naked. Naked++" Me: confusion starts to simmer gently

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  Nothing spells "International Day of the Girl" like getting transphobic bullshit boosted into your timeline.

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  Next week will be rough around the edges. My wife's parents will come around, so we can celebrate my wife's and my wedding (belated). That in itself will be quite the strain. We will also pick up my wife's best friend from the airport, at times and driving hours that I consider inhumane, but what won't you do for a unique occasion such as this. But the thing that repeatedly knocks at the back of my mind is the difference between her best friend and mine. Hers will travel around...

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  ... it's too early to be 3 hours driving from my bed...

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  OH: "You are not a person, in the best way." my wife @GoldenRetrieverGF@blahaj.zone to me

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  Recently, I had the amusing spectacle of a tragically heterosexual woman talking to my wife @GoldenRetrieverGF@blahaj.zone and me, and her relationship-role compass flipping wildly while trying to nail down who, between us, is "the man" in the relationship. Of course, the obvious point of a lesbian relationship is that *there is no "man"*. That is maybe a bit too broad a brush, given the details of the #lesbian umbrella that can span all the way to he/him-lesbians, and, ind...

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  Unsere lebendige Community verachtet ihr, aber unsere Toten und Verletzten nehmt ihr gerne als Vorwand für euren Scheiß-Rassismus, eure Fascho-Überwachungsfantasien, den nächsten Schachzug in der Abschaffung der Demokratie. Und morgen hlren wir, wie selber Schuld wir gewesen wären, und dann kehrt ihr zurück zu eurem Abscheu vor uns. Wir sind niemals Teil eurer Welt, aber ihr nehmt euch von uns, was euch passt. Und deshalb lassen wir euch nicht auf unseren Prides mitlaufen.

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  "When you're walking down the street, you show your face to the world, so of course it's fair game for anyone to just plant a huge wet kiss on it, right? We provide these robots that will kiss you anytime you step out the door! It's wonderful! Of course, if you don't want that, you can always opt out by wearing this special shirt that you basically have to find out about by one of our robots kissing you first." -- people who don't have any understanding of consent

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  Heat aggravation 76587: On this day 11 of the still ongoing heat warning, my skin gets really irritated from all the fucking sweat. Itchy, sticky, sweaty, wet, stinky, hot, loud, bright... it's just fucking sensory hell.

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  I seem to have misplace my witch hat. Well. Nothing for it, I'll have to actually put this pigsty in order.

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  I've been taking care of my computer stuff for roundabout 30 years now, and that gave me some insights. Any hardware can and will fail. Any box you can't open and service isn't yours. Any cable will fail. Any wired connection is preferable to wireless. There is no such thing as "autodetect". Defaults are an OK start if you can change them, if you can't they suck. Any file you have no backup of is to be considered lost. Anything you have on subscription is to be conside...

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  Sometimes I feel I should start making youtube videos about this kind of stuff, but then, you'd have to hear me talk - you're better off reading this. Recently, algorithmic social media has thrown a lot of #Cyberpunk2077 at me - and specifically, a lot of hot takes on Songbird. How awful she is. How bad it is that she swindles everyone, specifically dupes V. How reckless she is to run away with that little Blackwall problem. How players kill her, or send her off back to Myers. And I&#3...

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  I need people to understand that #feminism is not as easily framed as "men vs. women". The enemy is #patriarchy, which is a system that is propped up, yes, mostly by men, but also by women who gladly lick boots to defend crumbs they're thrown from the table, and assimilationsists of every marginalized community imaginable. The victims of patriarchy are fucking everybody, even and especially those who adhere most to its principles. So being a victim does not qualify for being anti-...

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  #WordWeavers 2026-07-01: If your MC wore teeshirts, what would be on their favorite one? I'll have to yank Pergene into this world for that, show her options and all... But all that done, her favourite would be one that was less designed than more constructed along the lines of use for workouts. Formfitting cut, mesh elements, moisture wicking, cooling material, the works. With a print resembling armor. In purple. ... if this seems weirdly specific to you, that's because she just took...

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  #WordWeavers 2026-07-02: What’s the hardest emotion for you to write and why? Not per se hard to write, but write in a way that conveys things in their full depth and intensity... any of them. I'm an AuDHDer. People have difficulty reading my emotions, because they don't happen like they do for others, apparently. But I assure you, they are there, they are big. They often are so big that they get stuck in the door and have difficulty squeezing themselves in, they are big enough to fill...

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  I just got a reminder that my name became my legal name seven years ago, alongside updated gender marker. Being in Germany, it went according to the at the time medicalizing, humiliating law that mandated a legal procedure involving a judge. The judge in my mind being the most sympathetic, friendly person in it all, but that was me being lucky. 7 years, already. Just 7 years, too. A lifetime ago. So much happened since, in so little time. It's a little dizzying to imagine. And I nearly comp...

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  Of all the shows we might have watched as kids, surprisingly Scooby Doo is the one that I feel prepared us best for real life: A stoner with constant munchies talking to his dog, a pair of lesbians, and a wannabe jock discover over and over again that bad things are caused by greedy, old, white men.

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  So, here's one of my headcanons about the Alliance in #MassEffect being abso-fucking-lutely not as squeaky clean as a lot of people think. You keep getting hints that Cerberus "was" an Alliance Black Ops. We don't get an all too clear picture how long, exactly that went, although I'd say that Cerberus definitely has unilaterally cut ties before attacking the Mars archives in ME3. The whole time Shepard basically gets to roam free even around the Citadel after flying in on...

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  #Transition is for #trans people the process in which they stop acting. We've been handed one of two scripts (colour coded), and it was the wrong one - think Vin Diesel doing MacBeth, hilarious for a stunt, really not something you can keep up for a living. And then we... stop doing that. At least that's what it should be. Instead, often enough, we get the prospect of passing. Dressing a certain way. Picking clothes that will hide certain features. Stop acting one way, and starting to a...

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  Anything you post here could be the first contact someone has with you. A first impression, the foundation of a new friendship. Or you could run into my posts. In which case I'm sorry, and also slightly amused.

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  @ShadowJonathan@tech.lgbt If there was a possibility to punish every person responsible for an ad stealing my screen estate, computing power, time, and attention with an equally intrusive rickroll on their end every single time one of their abominations shows up, I would.

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  In school we heard "you won't carry a calculator around all the time" as reason for doing math on paper. OK, that was a total goof, because now we all have phones that, potentially, can serve as arbitrarily powerful calculator anytime and anywhere. But that's not the gotcha you think it is. I don't think teachers were just blind to technological progress here, they were fully aware of one thing that they neglected to teach: it's a tool, and a tool is only as powerful a...

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  So, the people who played that utter misery of an ending (not badly written - it is just an awful ending) encounter Panam being absent. Whatever the real world reason for that is, it feels highly uncharacteristic. Even worse, the credits call by Mitch feels eerily out of character. The Panam we got to know wouldn't pass up an opportunity to chew V out in the worst possible ways, promising hellfire and brimstone. Instead we get... Mitch. A veteran who is not likely to hold back bad news, eve...

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  "Hold the fuck up!" ... I'm the fuck up. Hold me?

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  I'm an adult like a tomato is a fruit - technically yes, but not really.

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  I was called pretty today! ... well, the statement was "You're pretty annoying", but I take what I get.