If you regard criticism of your POV and leftist feminism as ‘anger’… than yeah, you are already lost and you won’t be winning any young men over to your side. You are so ideologically captured you really cannot see how your attitude and ideology is so condescending to young men and why they want nothing to do with it. Because nothing anyone says to you is legitimate that isn’t already what you have pre-ordain to be the truth. The problem with modern leftism of any flavor is that it totally reject the lived reality of human beings and tells them their experiences are wrong or ‘misguided’. Maybe you should try meeting people where they are, instead of lecturing them from on high about how they are ‘supposed’ to be, you might find people more sympathetic to your views that way.