I only have a little bit to say this #TransDayOfVisibility, but I'll say this much: I've only really realized that I'm trans for about three years, and in time I'd kind of hoped that fact was not the most interesting thing about me. More than any particular gender, I really deeply want to identify as being "boring" or "none of your business." Even in such a short time, I've learned how much visibility is a double-edged sword. My suggestion to cis folks is thus to see the trans folks around you in fullness. To understand that when trans people are visible, it's not *just* their trans-ness that's visible, it's that we are visible *as people*.