The biggest problem I have with transgendered people is that ... well, that to me, they're not transgendered. They're just who they are. If the person presents as male - that's what they are. If they present as female, again, that's what they are. If it's something else (sorry - it's a long list :) ) then that's what they are. Gender is tribalism. Break free of the tribes and be yourself because we're all a mix of things.