I just feel like a permanent, monogamous D/s dynamic would just hit so many spots in me. My submissive spot: A safe place to surrender to vulnerability and release myself. My self-determined spot: A person to support my own “yes“ rather than telling me “no.” My autistic spot: clearly communicated expectations with clearly defined success criteria My traumatized spot: constant and consistent engagement, praise, and encouragement. My manic pixie playful spot: Fun engagement through my natural playfulness and slight brattiness with a constant inside joke.