‘Someone who has been gaslit has lost, albeit partially and temporarily, herself. And in various ways, her depressive responses to that situation are fitting—she is grieving; she’s grieving the loss of her independent perspective, her ability to form and maintain her own reactions and perceptions, the loss of the friendships that became or turned out to be mere gaslighting relations, and her own largely blameless complicity in all of this. It may take her a very long time, and work, to come to see her symptomatically depressive reactions in these terms; like many forms of significant grief, it can take work and self-understanding that’s not easily or immediately accessible to experience its manifestations as grief.’ —Kate Abramson;, “On Gaslighting”