Been to a party a day ago and it wasn't really a good party, I felt awkward and out of place because of the people involved. But I have to submit an eek. And I feel like I'll advocate for men, just this once. It rarely happens. There's something deeply unsettling and disgusting in a red flag way when I hear that the group of friends really tried to persuade one of their friends to break up with their allegedly toxic boyfriend, just to immediately jump in and try to recruit said breakee into a polycule and fuck her. There's some details involved, but it's predatory as hell. And I know for a fact that if a man did this, I mean persuading and immediately trying to have sexual relations with said girl, he'd be rightfully branded a predator and cast out.