@RosethornRanger@spore.social 100% Heteronormative culture conflates sexual interactions with love and romance. Ace people, beginning in childhood, are conditioned to believe the only way we can experience love and connection with others is by enduring something deeply uncomfortable or downright repulsive. A lifetime of shunting that discomfort leads to distrusting all the other discomforts and internal warnings that tells a person the situation is wrong or unsafe.